no seriously.
real romantic love.
real i'm gonna live the rest of my life with this person, grow up, have babies, go thru deaths, debt, love, change, with and grow old together.
i'm letting people comment anon. on here - so if you wanna say - but not say who you are - go for it.
i ask this:
* cause i know i love my friends. seriously. i adore them.
* i love my parents
* i love my dog
* hell, i love kevin spacey
but i don't know that i've ever been in romantic love before. i've been in like, lust, and in complete adoration - obsession maybe even. but i don't know about love.
how did you know he/she was 'the one'?
did they come in the package you expected?
are they what your parents expected of/for you?
***i'm sure i'll add more questions as i think on this - i'm just curious***
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Judith Viorst tells of a time her husband came home from work to find the family room filled with kids, friends, neighbors, pets...all watching TV. Ms. Viorst was upstairs doing something and his comment to the crowd was, "Where is everybody?"
That's real love.
Your post about your neighbors had me rolling. I can' TOTALLY relate. Fuck em if you're single in your house. It means you're a girl with priorities and assets.
Ok what is love.........
True love is him holding your head as you puke, saying nothing about his skid marked up drawers that you wash daily and good, deep, intellectual discussions over an ice cold beer and burger. Tis nuttin better!
I know it's not the answer you want, but no one can define real love. All of the symptoms of real love are similar to the symptoms of like, lust, infatuation and obsession. However Champaignlady is right when he paraphrases Shakespeare. If you are truly in real love with someone, you will never again find yourself NOT in love with that person. The discomforting part is that it takes time and hindsight and sometimes the loss of that person in your life to find this out. WoooHooo! I'm a downer!
btw- for you and #3sc, I now have 2 real posts on my blog since my pseudo-post updates.
no dave -actually that's good. i'm trying to figure out some feelings....and just curious about different definitions. i've heard people say to marry your best friend ... i dunno if that's such a good idea - esp. since my 'best friends' are a group of 5 women. i've heard people say that you should marry someone that even with a tragic accident you'd still love even if you had to take care of them every day - well i question that too - cause that may be more loyalty and obligation than love .... this is interesting though - i like the comments - keep em coming
...baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me no more...
love don't cost a thing
by the way, what's love got to do, got to do with it
and since i watched 13 going on 30 again last weekend ...
we are young
heartache to heartache we stand
no promises
no demands
LOVE IS A BATTLEFIELD
Love is like being Jewish. It's something you just are, and it's something you choose do.
Some people wake up and just know that they are completely and totally "in love" with someone, while other people grow "in love" with someone because they made a conscious choice everyday to love another person. My opinion, and it may not be a good one, is that for real, lasting love, you gotta have both. You have to, most of the time, just know in your knower that you love another person, AND you have to make the internal commitment in your head and in your heart that you are going to love this other person NO MATTER WHAT.
It's a feeling, an action and a choice.
Then again there's only one thing that you can never give up, never compromise on and that's the real thing you need in love.
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrl. I ask myself this question weekly.
I think it's a personal choice for each individual.
No - J is the EXACT opposite of what I expected in every single way. I won't name it all here but he was the antithesis of what I was looking for.
My parents liked him and he was good to me, but hated the baggage and drama he brought with him and would, as gently as possible, ask me if I was sure this was what I wanted.
Why did I marry him? I was a self-sufficient, basically happy girl that was never taught that I needed a man for anything. But there was a connection in my heart/soul/whatever you want to call it that made me fill complete. Could I live without him - yes. Did I want to - No.
Other people look for more than that. Passion, lust, security, friendship....the hard part is figuring out what YOU need to be complete.
I feel it in my fingers, I feel it in my toes
Love is all around me and so the feeling grows
It's written on the wind, it's everywhere I go
So if you really love me, come on and let it show
hmmm...any particular reason you're asking?
you know, 'cause I've been reading around...seems like an interesting post to make at this time...interesting timing with other people's posts...
just curious... :)
it's just a thought that's been running thru my melon lately. different kinds of love, how you know it's the 'one' what worth fighting for - what needs to be let go of... all that stuff.
that and the fact that boys are stupid - throw rocks at them
Hehe, you said "melons" (well, close enough Bevis)
i look forward to the day i meet "love". i have already meet lust, like, in-like, pre-lust, infatuation. i have been told by past men that they've "loved me" or they were "in love with me" but i never felt the same emotion back. i don't know what love is. i know what it is to have a crush and have your heart broken or be in a long term (5 yrs) relationship and "love" the guy i spent a long time with but i never truly "loved" him. i keep running into the wrong type of guys and wasting too much of my good and kind energy on them. i don't mind practicing my love but i do so much want to find the real true lasting - really silly i love you kind of love with a male human being. i will continue searching till i go to my grave i imagine. i know he exists somewhere. thanks for the interesting and thought provoking question. love your friend, inky
leave it to the gay guy to point out that the correct wording is:
"what's love got to do, scot to do with it?"
sorry, it was driving me crazy. short trip.
i think i might be a little qualified for this one. since my husband just went through the "i love you but i am not IN LOVE with you" patch.
love is easy. its like (in my case) being white. i know i am white and i cant change it. i know i love my husband and i cant change it. but IN LOVE requires upkeep. it requires letting your mate know that you are here for them, touching them everyday, because if you arent touching and feeling, then you are out-of-touch. "in love" is butterflies and inside jokes. "in love" is moon-pied. "in love" is painful. it makes you ache when the other person is not there. it makes you feel incomplete. and complete at the same time. "in love" is his hand on the small of your back as you walk into a room, his hands brushing away your tears, him calling you and getting a thrill.
and i KNOW you will find that. because i know this universe has JUST the right one to walk into a crowded room and let everyone know, just by the look on his face, that he is so in love with you.
Dear Allison!!
sheesh, after Christel's comment anything else seems nekkid! she spiked it and it went sailing way over my head! WTG Christel!!!
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