Tuesday, December 07, 2004
feeling good, but sorta serious and all over the place

consider yourself warned.

I'm feelin' good this morning - which is a nice change of pace from the hormone induced nightmare that was yesterday - but i will give myself big credit for one thing. I usually do not require other people to act in my drama. it's a one woman show and i keep it thata way.

i talked with DB for a while last night and that was good - cause i haven't done that in a while - and i was missing her funny ass - then ( of course ) i talked with mary about 10 times...and talked for a while with stacey. i'm so lucky to have friends i can completely be ME with. no show. no performance. no pretention. just me. and they like me for just me. when i'm funny and when i'm not ( not that the not part is very often mind you )

stacey and i were discussing how lucky we are to realize that we never have to date "ted". everyone knows a "ted" and there was one time where i thought "ted" was all i was ever gonna get and i was ok ( not really ) with that. Hell, stacey married "ted" ... i'm glad i avoided that. and now she's out of that and he's someone else's albatross. and for that all the lord's people said AMEN.

for a while it seems like i was not all that particular in who i went out with or spent my time with ( manly speaking ) i was of the "sure, let's go out, why not" philosophy ... also known as the you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince. then i realized that to buy into that whole prince charming thing - you have to believe that you need to be rescued from something. and with that type of thinking, you can only equate happiness to being with someone .... and that other person is what defines you. and i don't believe that anymore. i know i used to , and i don't know when i changed my mind on that .... but i'm glad i did. Now, please don't get me wrong. I still want to be with that "forever" guy... i like being a couple. and i'm a kick ass girlfriend, with the right guy - but i'm also ok with how things are right now. i want someone that doesn't want to be saved or mothered either ..... and i'm sure there's one or two of them left out there..

i think back to those days when we ( or at least i ) made these extensive lists of what i was looking for in a husband. i actually have one of those lists in a paper diary at home - and to look at it is pretty funny .... and i think now to what's important. and it's SO different ..... of course looks are to be considered .....cause well, cause they are - but some things are actually SO much more important - like can he carry on a decent conversation? ... does he make me laugh? .... is he aware of what's going on in the world? .... can he be honest? it's sorta one of those situations where you realize how much more attractive someone is ( male or female ) that can do those things ... or maybe it's just me.. ... but i think that's part of what i like about these blogs ... it's a peek into a moment of honesty and commentary - i like both of those things.

...i can tell this is going to be one of those entries i add to as the day goes on ... so check back ... i might eventually be funny or witty or smart.

posted by Allie @ 12/07/2004 08:10:00 AM
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6 Comments:

At 10:01 AM, Blogger Champagnelady59 said...

Yea I totally get that.....

You have all these ideas of what your "perfect mate" will be. Then you go and marry someone else altogether.

I think one of the important things is you marry your best friend. Because when the looks go, when the laughter stops and life gets serious or someone gets injured or ill, you have to be able to be strong and help deal with the fact that you may not be able to laugh a lot, or have sex anymore or any number of things.

Sorry don't mean to be maudelin.
But you know what I mean.

 
At 10:11 AM, Blogger M'Ary* said...

There are worse things than being single. I know. I dated them.

And then, you could marry "Ted" only to find out he likes "Fred." Except it wasn't "Ted," it was Prince Charming. No, wait, that happened to ME, and this is about YOU.

See, it can ALWAYS get worse.

Sorry, it's been a dramatic couple of days at the casa.

In other news, Dave got involved in the matchmaking, and your future husband Ben PROMISED he'd email you. He said I made you sound crazy. I think that's because he's a man and he chose to overlook my delicious sense of irony. When I said you needed to get married to each other RIGHT NOW and commence with making babies, of course I meant that there would be an appropriate courtship where he would sweep you off your feet and you would fall madly in love with each other. DUH! I'm just saying he needs to get the process started cause he's not getting any younger. YOU, however, remain absolutely fabulous.

 
At 10:17 AM, Blogger Allie#3ga said...

I'm just saying he needs to get the process started cause he's not getting any younger. YOU, however, remain absolutely fabulous.

this is just yet another example of why i adore you so.

 
At 10:43 AM, Blogger *L'ola said...

ditto on the adoration all around and i'd better not have to wear an ugly bridesmaid's dress...but for you, i would anyway AND not even bring it up every time we speak for the rest of our natural lives. i will, however, go camping in it. hey, i've done it before and now it's a set precedent.

and DAMN, it's been a while since i've been on the computer! why didn't anyone tell me that? oh yeah, the phone.

 
At 11:46 AM, Blogger tinyhands said...

Sorry, I don't buy that "marry your best friend" stuff. Been there, done that. There's no reason to get married if you're best friends. No reason to give up half your stuff either. Remember 'Tom' from Four Weddings and a Funeral? (aside: another great Richard Curtis film) He wanted lightning bolts. I want lightning bolts.

 
At 1:23 PM, Blogger devilboss said...

It was very good talking to you last night. Now for a comment from the graduate of "My Old Kentucky Home" Middle School.

Nobody that I know and love deserves Ted. I live with Ted and I don't wish that on anyone. I would like a lighting bolt, I would like it to come hit Ted in the head. That's all.

 

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